My story

Hi! My name’s Katy and I decided to ditch weddings for wanderlust after being jilted.

Feeling heartbroken, confused and a little disillusioned with where life was heading I made the brave decision to quit my job in public relations, sold my house, my car and anything else that wouldn’t fit into a large backpack before jetting off on my own.

Everyone did think I was a little mad especially as I’d never travelled anywhere by myself before but it just felt right. I needed the time away from everything and everyone I knew to find myself – but it wasn’t as cheesy as that.

I started Not Wed Or Dead mainly to keep family and friends updated during my trip around South East Asia.

But people who weren’t related to me started reading my blog and sending me emails, telling me how brave I was to quit it all and go.

I received messages from other newly single men and women who said they read my blog as an inspiration that just because you’ve been dumped it doesn’t mean you have to listen to bad power anthems and devour ice-cream.

I’ve been lucky enough to experience things that I would never have imagined seeing, such as the Taj Mahal and trekking through the Himalayas and backpacking around South America.

My ex’s decision, although devastating at the time, was the wake-up call I needed. I had a good job, a lovely house and lived a comfortable lifestyle but it lacked adventure. Something I hoped travelling halfway around the world on my own would give me, and luckily it paid off.

I have climbed an active volcano in Chile, slept in a Thai jungle, got covered in Holi paint in India, skydived in France, and even taken a flight past Mount Everest. I’ve experienced things that I would never have dreamed possible, including fulfilling a childhood dream by becoming a published author.

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But things really went nuts in January when my story of self-discovery – and THAT pic of me in a bikini – went global, something I never expected in a billion years. The headlines in newspapers and websites across the UK, USA, Australia, South America, China and Europe are still something I cannot get my head around. I was even dubbed ‘Bridget Jones goes backpacking’.

The thing that’s really struck me, though, are the humbling messages of support and the tales from people who are in similar situations from the one I found myself in.

To those people, I say this: Life is about saying yes, being brave and knowing deep down that it will all end up alright.

Every cloud has a silver lining.

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